Dating help

Do you want dating help?

Do you need some tips, advice or help on dating women?

Want to know:

• What to say when you see a girl you fancy
• How to get her phone number
• The methods to engage her in conversation and make her fancy you.

Whatever it is you want help with, Charlie and I are only an email away.

Think of us as your dating friends.

The guys that will help you get the woman of your dreams.

Right now!

So if we can help, simply send an email describing what advice you need and we’ll endeavour to answer.

As long as you don’t mind we’ll share the subject (but not your name, so you’ll remain anonymous) with others so that we can all work together to get the girl of our dreams.

Send an email to: callum@tipsfordating.co.uk and let me know what specific areas of advice you’re looking for.



Example

Here’s a recent example and it’s relevant to all of us:

“Callum. I have recently been on some dates with a girl. We got on reasonably well and have seen each other on a total of three separate occasions. However, whilst I find her company fun I am not particularly attracted to her and am unsure how to let her know this without upsetting her. Your advice would be appreciated.”
George, Newcastle.

Hey George I feel your pain.

You sound like a cool guy who’s sincere and thoughtful. It’s always a difficult thing to let someone know that you don’t want to see them again.

However there is a right way to do it.

Before I tell you though consider a few points:

1. The longer you delay telling her, the harder it will be for you and for her.
2. Not telling her, won’t make the problem go away.

Sometimes it seems like the best solution is to say nothing and hope she ‘get’s the message.’

Well, eventually she will, but it’s going to be painful for her and leave her with many unanswered questions.

The best policy is to be upfront and say some nice things as well as some honest things.

In my years of sports training we called this the Big Mac approach.

Where the bun of a Big Mac is positive feedback and the burger is constructive feedback.

So start with the bun, then the burger and finish with the bun.

Positive – constructive – positive.

Say to her something like:

“Hey I really enjoy your company. We get on well and seeing you has been terrific fun.”

“I have to be honest though. I’m not quite feeling ‘it’ in this relationship. And I thought it would be best to be honest and upfront with you.”

“You’re a great looking girl though and our dates have been incredible fun.”

This way it’s clear that you’re not getting what you want out of the relationship and that it’s gone the distance.

If she’s unsure what you mean she may ask “Does that mean it’s over?” and the simple answer is “Yes it does.”

Most women will be fine with this approach, especially after only a few dates.

Remember being honest and upfront early is the best policy.

That way you have cleared the air and you’re both free to pursue the lives and relationships that you both want and deserve.

I’m glad we can be of help.
Callum

Overcoming the fear of approaching women - Dating Tip

Dave from Swindon emailed in:

“Hi Callum and Charlie.
I wanted to share with you my heartfelt gratitude.
After recently downloading your course and working the exercises my love life has taken a massive step forward.
I was initially sceptical about the whole dating game, believing that being nice to women and telling them how you felt was the best policy. I also struggled with a lack of courage and found the more attractive I found a women the harder it was to go and talk to her. However your methods are incredible. I’m now in the enviable position of being able to pick and choose my girlfriends. Something I could never have dreamed possible in the past.
Thanks again.”

Thanks Dave, it’s always great to hear yet more success stories from our friends.


Courage

I’m going to take one point out of Dave’s email and that is ‘struggling with a lack of courage’ and how you can overcome this.

It's something that affects most men and was something that personally held me back for years!

I used to get so nervous when I saw a girl I fancied that I wouldn’t go and chat to them unless they had made eye contact with me.

In fact the more beautiful they were, the more time I’d spend trying to make eye contact and invariably I’d never go and chat to them.

Sometimes it would be the same girl and week after week I’d see her and hope she’d make eye contact so I could go and say something.

Of course they didn’t make eye contact and I didn’t go and chat to them.

The weeks became months and then one day I’d see them out with their new boyfriend who looked and acted like a complete dork!

Damn!!

The point here is that I screwed up!


The theory

But there is a SOLUTION!

Now I’m not going to go into too much detail here because this is covered in detail on our course; THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION™

It’s in Part 2 entitled “Super Confidence.”

The good news for you and for anyone else who suffers a bit of ‘Pre-match nerves’ or ‘Stage fright’ is that it is something you can ELIMINATE right now!

Let's look at it in a bit more detail.........

The way the human body works is highly complex, but in simple terms, the body’s central nervous system extracts information from your particular environment.

It uses the sensory receptors, to detect the five senses; touch, taste, sight, smell, and hearing.
Then it processes this information and determines an appropriate response.

So an example might be that you’re driving your car and up ahead about 400m away you see numerous brake lights suddenly appear in the traffic.

Your eyes detect the lights, they then send this information to your central nervous system and your brain registers it. It assesses it and sends back information saying that there is possible danger ahead. You sub-consciously reduce the pressure on your cars accelerator pedal and slow up enabling more information to be processed.

All of this happens in micro seconds!

Now in the case of a pretty woman your eyes register then send signals to your brain which will instantly register as:

1. Gorgeous looking woman.
2. I want to go and chat!
3. I want to be seen as cool!
4. I want her to find me attractive!
5. I don’t want to get this wrong!

Your heart rate will rise and you’ll get a rush of adrenaline which in turn will give you all of the symptoms associated with what we call ‘nerves!’

• You’ll feel less confident.
• Your palms may get sweaty.
• Your hand may shake.
• Your breathing will become laboured.
• Your voice will change in tone and pitch.

Now this is ‘worst-case’ stuff and in Part 2 of THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION™ we explain how you can reduce and even eliminate these symptoms entirely.

The solution

But here’s one thing I want you to try the next time it happens to you:

1. Look away from the girl.
2. Focus on something else.
3. Then close your eyes and think long and hard about...
4. What is the WORST thing that could happen in this situation?
5. Then think about:
6. What is the BEST thing that could happen?’
7. On a scale of 1 to 10 where 1 is a disaster or catastrophe and 10 is utopia or the perfect dream rank your answers.

So if the WORST thing that could happen to you is she’ll smile but maybe figure you out for being boring, politely make her excuses and leave, then rank that.

And if the BEST thing that could happen is that she’ll laugh, smile, give some banter in return and agree to your suggestion of a longer chat over coffee then also rank that.

THERE ARE NO RIGHT OR WRONG ANSWERS!!!!

The whole point of this exercise is to get you to understand that the worst scenario is NOT a disaster. It’s NOT a catastrophe!

It’s actually not even a negative!!!

"WHAT?" I hear you cry!

You’re probably thinking I’m nuts!

"I chat to a girl and she politely tells me to “Bugger off!” and it’s not a negative outcome."

NO IT’S NOT!

What you will have achieved by talking to her is:

• You’ll have overcome the initial fear of approaching a girl.
• You’ll have fought your own fear.
• The nerves you will have experienced will become less and less the more you do this, so you’ll have reduced them for the next approach
• You will have improved your skills at making a first approach.

And is she does ‘blow you out’ you won’t waste any time or money on her and you can move on to someone else who will be better for you anyway!

Whatever the outcome you’re also now officially a ‘Fun’ guy who has size 11 balls!

Don't forget all of this is covered in detail with exercises for you to do to improve your skills in part 2 of our manual entitled “Super Confidence.”

Good luck and let me know how you get on.

Callum

Winning ladies with internet dating emails

Fact

Did you know that 95% of men make the same mistakes when it comes to writing emails to girls on Online Dating sites?

The emails that they write get deleted in 80% of the cases. 10% get a polite “Thanks but I don't think we're compatible” and the other 10% get no response and then they are removed later.

Have you ever sent emails to women online, only to have no reply?


Reason

There are numerous things to understand about women that are totally different men and there isn’t time to go through all of them here...but....

I am going to share with you one tip in a moment.....but before I do let’s discuss a bit of theory:

Firstly, men are a notoriously ‘visual’ species.

The first thing we do is look at pictures of women and decide whether we think they are potential girlfriend material.

Regardless of whether they are on the same intellectual wavelength, have similar interests, goals and aspirations. It’s simple.

If she looks ‘Hot’ she’s going to get an email.

Now how many emails do you think ‘Hot’ women on a dating site get every day?

Yeah therein is the problem!

They get HUNDREDS!

And 95% of those emails have one line sentences such as:

“Hi how are you today?”

Or

“Wow, you look gorgeous, fancy a chat?”

Or even worse some guys offer their phone number:

"Hey gorgeous, I can't believe you're on a dating site, call me on 07******** and let's chat!"


Outcome

And guess what?

All of the women receiving these emails delete them instantly and mutter comments like; “Go away loser!” or “Oh my god how boring are you!"

Indeed many guys think that if they send 10 of these one line emails then they’re bound to ‘get lucky’ eventually and someone will reply.

Hey they might!

And in fact if you walk across the M25 with a bucket on your head, you might make it to the other side without getting run over!

But all of the guys that have downloaded our course and practice the methods we coach don’t ‘Get lucky’ they get RESULTS.

They know what to write in an email to get replies. They know how to turn a few emails into a phone number exchange.

They know how to turn that into a date.

And a date into a second date.....and you know the rest!

In fact a recent convert signed up on Match and with 2 weeks had to pull his profile because he couldn’t cope with the number of women who wanted to meet him. His diary is full for the next 2 weeks with potential dates!


The secret

There are several KEY SECRETS to being successful with online dating and I’m going to share one of them with you today.

Yes I’m going to give you a HOT tip that normally we’d keep back until you’d signed up for the course. But today, I’m going to provide it as a way of saying “Well done for taking steps to improve your success with women!”

So here it is:


Personalise the email

We talked about the fact that most men look at the pictures. Go ahead and do that, but then take some time to read their profile and look for something that you can use to create a ‘hook!’

A ‘hook’ is something that get’s their attention. Something that makes them want to respond.

Let me give you an example.

Their profile may have some great personal information like:

"My favourite summer destination is Greece. I love the lifestyle and climate."

Or

"I love to play tennis in my spare time and read history."

Also profiles will tell you what they do for work and what their star sign is, let’s say she’s a Scorpio.

All of this is great material to work with.

So in your email you can personalise this and create a ‘hook.’

As an example here’s what you could write:

"Is it true what they say about the secret trait that Scorpio’s have? The one they never reveal?"

Or

“Have you been to that secret part of Greece that they never tell you about in the brochure?”

These are hooks.

They grab their attention and 'invite' them to respond. If it's got some INTRIGUE then youre success rate will leap!

You need to write more in your email, but if you use these in the opening lines then you’re instantly creating a ‘hook’ that will make them want to know the answer.

It also means you’re not in the 95% category.

Instead you’re in the 5% category of men whos emails will be read.

If you then get the rest of your email right. Have a well constructed profile that follows our ‘Golden rules’ then you’re going to get some positive replies.

You can do this and have the RELATIONSHIP you WANT with the WOMAN you WANT by learning the techniques that we teach in the SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION™.

And this UNIQUE 7 part course is available for you today.

Good luck and let me know how you get on with your emails.

Callum

The worlds worst chat-up lines

Scenario

I witnessed a great one only recently in the Chinese takeaway in my local town!
OK so not the glamour of Harrods, but it’s worthy of discussion because it was a great example of lame chat-up lines!
I’m sure you can picture the typical Chinese Takeaway, small room, bare walls with gloss paint, TV in the corner and a huge menu above the counter with around 175 different choices.

Waiting for their meals were 2 guys who’d arrived together, and had obviously been drinking for most of the afternoon, and one girl who’d arrived alone. She looked classy and was very attractive.

The guys spent the entire time visually 'feasting' on her and finally when her meal arrived and she started to leave one of them said:
“Have a great evening hot honey!”

She didn’t even look at the guy, choosing to ‘blank’ him completely and walk rapidly to her car. Which was a BMW M3 convertible! Very nice!

Analysis

Let’s give this a bit of thought:
Firstly how does it feel for a girl to be on her own in a confined area with 2 lechourous drunken guys.
Not great! In fact probably pretty scary!

As for “Have a great evening hot honey!”

If you have ever said that then you need to give yourself a slap on the wrist.

If you still think it’s cool then find yourself a mirror, look into it and repeat 20 times:
“I promise never to say 'have a great evening hot honey!'”

Get the picture??!!


Action

Instead here’s what you’re going to do.

As soon as she walks in you must give her your best smile you can do. A real friendly warm smile. (We go into detail on this in the course and give you an exercise on how to MASTER it).

Then you simply say: “Hiya, how you doing?”

Say it with a huge amount of warmth, sincerity and confidence. And smile!


Result

By doing this you have ‘ELEVATED’ yourself above everyone else in the room. You’re suddenly the friendly face in a crowd. The guy who’s confident and cool. And you’re not a threat!

And that’s it........for now......because she’ll probably say: “I’m great thanks.” And smile back at you.

And if you want to know what to do next so that you can progress you need to do the SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION™ course.

In here we go through ALL the details and ALL the exercies you need to progress this from a friendly greeting, to a date, to much more!!

In fact it’s so good that we put our money where our mouth is and state that if you’re not happy you can return it within 14 days for a full refund.

But for now, just remember, a huge smile and a “Hi how you doing?” will get you a smile and an answer.

Enjoy your Chinese meal!

Callum

Seductive voicemail

When was the last time you got a Voicemail late at night from a gourgeous blonde that went something along the lines of:

“HI Callum. It’s Jo just to say a really, really, sexy message. As you can probably tell I’m a little bit drunk, and I apologise now for phoning at this ungodly hour. Just thought I’d say hi. Anyway speak to you soon, take care. Bye.”

How many text messages on your phone say:

“Hi lovely. How are you doing? R u missing me? ;-) x”

Or:

“Actually I was just thinking about you and last night and getting all in a fluster, lol ;-) x”

There is a certain MAGIC and MYSTIQUE that surrounds seduction.

If you know the SECRETS you can successfully date stunning women, regardless of your height, income, looks or car!

These stunning women also love being SEDUCED........

If you want to learn these SECRETS and be able to get voicemail messages like the one above then you need to get them all right here THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION.

Let me know how you get on.

Want to know the SECRETS on how to attract women? Sign up to the FREE coaching email, full of dating tips for men and get a FREE guide on Why Most Dates Fail.

Good luck out there.
Callum

Internet dating tips for men - getting her phone number

Here’s an email I wanted to share with you....

"There is one attractive woman that I have had 2 page emails going on with on Match.com over the last 2 weeks. I closed her off with my mobile 3 days ago. Now the emails were going back and forward every other day or so up until I sent my last one. I also went skiing at the weekend so did not email her for 3 days or so. She has not replied to my last email. I know she has the phone numbers of 2 other guys because I asked her have you met or spoken to many people of Match & she said she had 2 numbers."

"Having read you 3 mistakes on dating, i think i will leave this now and see if she gets back to me instead of chasing her up. As I say up to this point the emails have been great between us."

This is a fantastic email and thanks for sharing it with us. It’s fantastic because internet dating is the norm now and it’s incredibly EASY to be SUCCESSFUL if you know the SECRETS!

I’m going to split this into two emails as I want to do it justice. In this one I’m going to talk about the first major error and that’s giving out your PHONE NUMBER.

By the way, I’m sorry to say it’s 90% certain she’s gone and it’s unlikely that she’ll reconnect. Unfortunately the ATTRACTION is diminishing. It’s not you personally but it’s your actions that have made this happen......

All of the KILLER actions that you need to know on how to attract women are in our course: THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION.

Hot tip
I will give you one HOT TIP though because I’ve personally had this happen in the past, (although not anymore because I now know what to do).

Send her an email entitled "Interesting......." and in it state the following:

“Hi, hope you’re having a fun week. It’s all going on here for me :-) Anyway something happened yesterday which reminded me of you.... Enjoy your day and catch up soon.”

She’ll email you back!!

Golden rule
Now let’s talk about the first KEY POINT:
1) SWAPPING PHONE NUMBERS

The golden rule is NEVER give out your phone number. Instead you have to get her to give you her number. Now I’m sure you want to know why and how, so read on..... Firstly, let me tell you what happens when you give out your phone number. The ‘Balance of POWER’ shifts from you to her. She is suddenly the one that’s in control. She can phone you, WHEN and IF she chooses. You’ve instantly become one of the same ordinary, sad, lame guys that always try chatting her up. Sorry to be brutally honest here but it’s a really important rule.

It’s a subconscious thing too. Without her knowing why, or even thinking about it you’ve become LESS interesting, MORE predictable and ultimately LESS attractive. In future every time you give out your phone number you owe me a beer! Do we have deal?

Getting her number
Now of course we want to have a telephone conversation with a potential date and the key is to get her number and then you can call her WHEN and IF you choose. It makes you far more interesting, far more confident, far more in control and far more ATTRACTIVE. After a few emails, to get a girls phone number write something like:

“Hey I’m beginning to get ‘writers block’ and life’s way too short to spend every evening playing ‘email tennis.’ Drop me your number and I’ll call you over the next few days to discuss the venue where you’re taking me for a coffee. :-) Have fun.”

The smiley face is important because it lets her know you’re teasing and you’re fun. It’s confident and it says to her that you are expecting her to want to take you out!! And NOT the other way round. It’s fun, it’s cheeky and it makes you STAND OUT from the crowd of boring, lame guys that are probably emailing her right now!

Timescale
This is normally best done after 3 or 4 emails from you. Don’t do it too soon as it says you’re NEEDY and DESPERATE.

Now she may be one of those women that like to email forever before giving out their phone numbers and therefore may come back to you saying that she’d rather continue to email on MATCH.com. If that happens then be cool and don’t push too hard. Act INDIFFERENT, like you’re not at all phased or bothered by anything. Something like:

“Hey I’m cool with that. I understand if your middle name is ‘Slow’ :-)”

And then continue the emails back and forth and every now and again throw in a line like:

“Of course I forgot you don’t have the bottle to give out your phone number, even though you know you want to chat with me ;-)”

The TEASING and baiting will work!

I’d urge you to read all the material on becoming a FUN, CHEEKY CHAPPY that we go into detail about in our course: THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION.

It’ll make you a MAGNET to women!!

Want to know the SECRETS on how to attract women? Sign up to the FREE coaching email, full of dating tips for men and get a FREE guide on Why Most Dates Fail.

Good luck out there.

Callum

How to attract women by overcoming the fear of approaching

Last time I shared with you the SECRET about LOOKS.

Today I’m going to tell you about the second SECRET which is FEAR.

If you remember I told you about the summer party at my mates house and the beautiful girl that I feared approaching. At the end of the night she was canoodling with some guy who was more Sunday Pub Team than Premier League.

Damn!! The point is though the guy deserved her, even if it pains me. He had the ‘balls’ to approach her. I didn’t!

Fear
Now let’s talk about this fear in a bit more detail.

If you want to shortcut all of this and overcome your fear NOW then you need to study the dating tips for men in the course and do the exercises.

The dictionary describes FEAR as:
1) A distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.
2) Concern or anxiety.

Many so called dating experts talk about FEAR and the FEAR of approaching women. But let me clarify one point:

It’s ANXIETY. It is NOT fear!

Right, now we’ve got that cleared up. It’s important though, because it highlights a really valid point. And that is when you approach a girl there is no immediate danger. You’re not likely to get shot, stand on a land mine, or get pregnant! But your anxiety levels increase.

Anxiety
Anxiety is a psychological and physiological state. That means it’s to do with the mind as well as the body. It differs in that it is more to do with perceived threats that are unavoidable or out of your control. Anxiety is a ‘future-oriented’ mood state where you attempt to prepare yourself for an upcoming negative event.

Read that again: Anxiety is a ‘future-oriented’ mood state where you attempt to prepare yourself for an upcoming negative event.

In the case of an approach to a woman you ‘future oriented’ mood state prepares you for REJECTION. Your mind say’s ‘OK she’s going to reject you. She’s going to ignore you and think you’re an idiot, loser in life.’

Therefore to eliminate or reduce this ANXIETY we don’t make the approach and another girl slips on by to become the lover of some other guy........And on it goes.......It’s a downward spiral of failure.

Preventing anxiety
The GREAT news is that you can break this spiral and stop feeling ANXIETY. You can get it to a level where you’re NEVER anxious.

Can you imagine what it would be like to be so confident that you can walk up to ANY woman and initiate a conversation, without any anxiety. WOW. How nice would that be? Well the good news is that you CAN. You can start on your journey to super confidence right now by simply downloading THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION course right now.

For now though, remember, ANXIETY is something you can eliminate. Read the material, perform the exercises and enjoy making APPROACHES.

Want to know the SECRETS on how to attract women? Sign up to the FREE coaching email, full of dating tips for men and get a FREE guide on Why Most Dates Fail.

Good luck out there.

Callum