Internet dating tips for men - getting her phone number

Here’s an email I wanted to share with you....

"There is one attractive woman that I have had 2 page emails going on with on Match.com over the last 2 weeks. I closed her off with my mobile 3 days ago. Now the emails were going back and forward every other day or so up until I sent my last one. I also went skiing at the weekend so did not email her for 3 days or so. She has not replied to my last email. I know she has the phone numbers of 2 other guys because I asked her have you met or spoken to many people of Match & she said she had 2 numbers."

"Having read you 3 mistakes on dating, i think i will leave this now and see if she gets back to me instead of chasing her up. As I say up to this point the emails have been great between us."

This is a fantastic email and thanks for sharing it with us. It’s fantastic because internet dating is the norm now and it’s incredibly EASY to be SUCCESSFUL if you know the SECRETS!

I’m going to split this into two emails as I want to do it justice. In this one I’m going to talk about the first major error and that’s giving out your PHONE NUMBER.

By the way, I’m sorry to say it’s 90% certain she’s gone and it’s unlikely that she’ll reconnect. Unfortunately the ATTRACTION is diminishing. It’s not you personally but it’s your actions that have made this happen......

All of the KILLER actions that you need to know on how to attract women are in our course: THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION.

Hot tip
I will give you one HOT TIP though because I’ve personally had this happen in the past, (although not anymore because I now know what to do).

Send her an email entitled "Interesting......." and in it state the following:

“Hi, hope you’re having a fun week. It’s all going on here for me :-) Anyway something happened yesterday which reminded me of you.... Enjoy your day and catch up soon.”

She’ll email you back!!

Golden rule
Now let’s talk about the first KEY POINT:
1) SWAPPING PHONE NUMBERS

The golden rule is NEVER give out your phone number. Instead you have to get her to give you her number. Now I’m sure you want to know why and how, so read on..... Firstly, let me tell you what happens when you give out your phone number. The ‘Balance of POWER’ shifts from you to her. She is suddenly the one that’s in control. She can phone you, WHEN and IF she chooses. You’ve instantly become one of the same ordinary, sad, lame guys that always try chatting her up. Sorry to be brutally honest here but it’s a really important rule.

It’s a subconscious thing too. Without her knowing why, or even thinking about it you’ve become LESS interesting, MORE predictable and ultimately LESS attractive. In future every time you give out your phone number you owe me a beer! Do we have deal?

Getting her number
Now of course we want to have a telephone conversation with a potential date and the key is to get her number and then you can call her WHEN and IF you choose. It makes you far more interesting, far more confident, far more in control and far more ATTRACTIVE. After a few emails, to get a girls phone number write something like:

“Hey I’m beginning to get ‘writers block’ and life’s way too short to spend every evening playing ‘email tennis.’ Drop me your number and I’ll call you over the next few days to discuss the venue where you’re taking me for a coffee. :-) Have fun.”

The smiley face is important because it lets her know you’re teasing and you’re fun. It’s confident and it says to her that you are expecting her to want to take you out!! And NOT the other way round. It’s fun, it’s cheeky and it makes you STAND OUT from the crowd of boring, lame guys that are probably emailing her right now!

Timescale
This is normally best done after 3 or 4 emails from you. Don’t do it too soon as it says you’re NEEDY and DESPERATE.

Now she may be one of those women that like to email forever before giving out their phone numbers and therefore may come back to you saying that she’d rather continue to email on MATCH.com. If that happens then be cool and don’t push too hard. Act INDIFFERENT, like you’re not at all phased or bothered by anything. Something like:

“Hey I’m cool with that. I understand if your middle name is ‘Slow’ :-)”

And then continue the emails back and forth and every now and again throw in a line like:

“Of course I forgot you don’t have the bottle to give out your phone number, even though you know you want to chat with me ;-)”

The TEASING and baiting will work!

I’d urge you to read all the material on becoming a FUN, CHEEKY CHAPPY that we go into detail about in our course: THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION.

It’ll make you a MAGNET to women!!

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Good luck out there.

Callum