I’m going to share with you 2 MASSIVE SECRETS.
The first one I’m going to talk about today and the second one in the next blog tomorrow.
Before I share with you the first big SECRET let me explain a situation that happened to me years ago more than once. Indeed numerous times.........
Party
I went to a party at a mates house in the summer. He had a great house with a large garden. The bbq was smoking and the drinks flowing.
After I’d been there a while I remember clearly seeing this girl across the room and my initial thought was “Wow she’s gorgeous!” She was about 5’6” with brunette hair down past her shoulders and long legs. She wore tight jeans that accentuated her slim figure and she had the most amazing smile. Amazingly I can remember it clearly as though it was yesterday. I also remember the feelings and emotions that I felt that instant. I remember wishing that I was taller, better looking, smarter, cooler, darker haired, with more chiselled features and so on.....
As the evening progressed I found her more and more attractive and felt myself wishing she was my girlfriend. How great I’d feel walking into a room with her. Taking her to a candlelit dinner. Walking hand in hand along a beach together as the sunset. The more I thought about this the more attractive she became and the more FEAR I felt. The FEAR continued to build to a point where the best thing to do was to not approach her and do nothing. At least that way the fear subsided.
Looks and fear
This scenario highlights two points: LOOKS and FEAR
FACT: Most men, indeed probably 95% of men go through their life thinking that women are attracted to men with GOOD LOOKS.
FACT: Most men FEAR approaching women.
Now let me share with you a SECRET.........Women are NOT ATTRACTED to men with great LOOKS!
“What?” I can hear you say..........Let me explain the difference....
The difference
Of course if a fantastic looking guy walks into the room women are going to stop and have a good view. They may chat to one another and say something like “Wow he’s hot!” or “Ooooo check him out. What a cutey!” But, and trust me this is an incredibly important ‘but’ women are far MORE attracted to PERSONALITY.
Now I can’t change your looks. A cosmetic surgeon may be able to, although I don’t think they’ve cracked how to make you taller! But, what I can do is change your personality so that you become an ACE with the ladies.
Now back to my mates party for a moment. Fast forward to the end of the evening and I spotted the girl again. She was cosying up to a guy. He was shorter than me, had a large stomach and very little hair. She was laughing the whole time at his jokes and from the body language you could see she was enjoying herself.
So, my friend, you have to understand that men are initially attracted to looks. For us guys it’s a very visual thing. If you don’t believe me then check out the top shelf of a magazine stand in a newsagent. Wall to wall porn!
It's not about the visuals
Why is there no equivalent for women? Because for women it’s not about the visuals.
There’s an old saying that women use: “Win my mind and you can have my body.”
It’s BANG on the money!!
If you win over the mind of a woman she’s yours forever. It doesn’t matter what you look like, how tall you are, what car you drive. But you have to WIN her mind.
In our course we explain how to do this.
How you can WIN her mind. How you can be the most AMAZING guy she’s ever met.
The course
It’s all in our course THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION
In the next instalment I’m going to share with you the FEAR secret!
Although if you want to fast forward and get over your FEAR now then check out the course. We tell you how to do that in massive detail. It’s a big subject and our exercises are designed to make you lose the FEAR forever!
For now though, remember, women are not attracted to LOOKS, so get out there and have some fun.
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Callum
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