Are you a bunny boiler?

A while ago we had an email from Simon:

“Hey guys I could use some help here! I’ve been on several dates recently and after the second date the girls always seem to lose interest. I’ve been cool and charming (I think) and have we’ve got close and personal with the conversations. Even to the point where we’ve been discussing long term plans around family and kids. Yet in each case they have gone cold on me after 2 or 3 dates. Help!”

We’ve also had a few emails from guys who want to know how to get closer to a woman that they’ve met for a few times.

I’ll give an example:

You’ve been out on a couple of dates, shared a few kisses and embraces; but haven’t made the move to the bedroom. So the question is how do you cross that divide?

First it’s worth making sure you’re not a male bunny boiler (BB).

Some of the emails for advice we get have some BB qualities to them; for example sending endless texts, and sending texts immediately after receiving one.

By The way we look further into how to pace your communication in the course The SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION™ if you haven’t downloaded it yet then I would do it now.

So take this test to find out if you’re on the verge of becoming a BB:

Imagine you’ve met a woman 2 times, now answer the following questions:

Have you discussed how many kids you’d like?
Have you suggested meeting your or their parents?
Have you asked her if she’s in contact with or meeting anyone else?
If you’ve answered “yes” to any of these you’re sailing way too close to the wind.

You have to remember that what most women put on their internet profiles or tell you what they like in a man is what they ULTIMATELY want. It’s want they want in the long term

But it’s not what they will find ATTRACTIVE.

ATTRACTION isn’t something that can be switched on of off like a lightbulb!

Women are either attracted to your or they’re not!

And if they are NOT attracted to you in the initial meeting then the chances of them ever being attracted to you are almost ZERO!

What we COACH is how to create that ATTRACTION.

How to ENSURE that women find you incredibly ATTRACTIVE right from the ‘off!’

Down load the programme its risk free and it’ll change your life!

But if you have turned into some sort of Bunny Boiler why not try the Tips For Dating - Bunny Boiler Stew:

2 pet rabbits, skinned and jointed
250g Bacon cut into small pieces
1 tbsp olive oil
1 large onion, thickly sliced
3 large carrots,
1 leek
2 bay leaves
500ml dry cider
Salt and freshly ground black pepper
1. Heat the oil in a pan and add the bacon, onions and pet rabbits, heat until brown. Then transfer the meat into a casserole dish or similar

2. Add the carrots, leek and bay leaves

3. Finally season with salt and pepper and add the cider. Ensure the meat is covered by added water

4. Place casserole in a pre heated oven at 130oc (ensure lid is on) for 90 minutes – although older pets will take longer.

5. Serve with potatoes and ladle juice over it all.

I’m glad we can be of help and don't really try this at home!

Best wishes

Callum

Hot women and Saturday nights

Hot women and Saturday nights.

Will it be another wasted Saturday night out with the boys?

I have a single friend (for the sake of this email we’ll call him Russell) he’s 36 and a self employed Accountant. He brings in a fairly large income and works very hard. It takes quite a lot of encouraging to get him to come out for a few beers – he’s always using excuses like:

“I’m too tired!”

“I’ve got a lot of work on.”

“I’ve got to meet a big client tomorrow.”

After a couple of drinks on Friday he finally admitted why he was reluctant to come out.

Russell’s story – He said the reason he was so reluctant to come out on a weekend was the frustrations he feels when he gets home, usually without even a single phone number. He feels very confident talking through the details of someone else’s business and challenges, but when it comes to approaching women in a bar he becomes a wreck! So when he wakes up in the morning following a night out he doesn’t feel relaxed after being out with some friends, he said he feels really frustrated.

Now I don’t think Russell is alone in this situation – how many of us in the last few weeks walked home with a takeaway for one, or back to a friends for a for more drinks?

What should you do?

Personally I don’t think focusing all of your efforts on finding true love should be done in your local bars and clubs, if you enjoy going to those places then it’s different. Otherwise they will only enhance your frustrations; you’ll also look like a fish out of water. You have to ask yourself – does the girl of my dreams hang around in Yates’?

SO where do you go?

Internet dating has become an easier and more efficient place to meet like minded people, but again it should be used as part of your dating strategy, you also have to bear in mind the fact that you’ll also have to make a good impression when you meet your internet date. That means you need practise getting your approaches and openers spot on.

Fit to date?

This doesn’t mean a six pack and bulging ‘guns’ – fit to date means you can have a great conversation, really make a great first impression and not appear like everyone else. For this you need practice and some professional coaching.

Practice is easy – you can walk into any public place and start talking to someone.

Coaching is also easy – book onto our 7 part course – It will cost you half as much as your last night out. But unlike your last night out, if it doesn’t improve your success rate we’ll give you your money back!

So ask yourself – do I want to keep walking home really frustrated after a fruitless night out? Or do I want the confidence to speak with attractive women?

If the answer is the latter then BOOK NOW!

It’s all here in The SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION™

Best wishes
Callum

Motor Racing babes

Have you ever seen the women that hang around at motor racing circuits?

You know the ones that are there as part of the race teams. They are wearing the team livery and are there purely as ‘eye candy.’

If you ever watch the MotoGP, prior to the race starting each competitor sits on his motorbike mentally preparing for the race. Holding an umbrella over each rider is a stunningly attractive girl, with a size 8 body and a figure hugging outfit.

Most guys will gawk and think things like:

“Wow she’s hot!”

or

“God I’d like to date her.”

Equally most guys will believe that these women are to be dreamed about and never will they really date a woman like this.

You have to be a gorgeous millionaire, don’t you?

Ask yourself; do you think the same way?

At the weekend a large motorbike store in a nearby town was celebrating its birthday and was holding a 2 day event. The place was alive with people. There was lots of entertainment and plenty there for the motorcycling enthusiast.

Additionally they had a plethora of ‘hotties’ making the place look nice and handing out promotional material.

I listened as many of the bikers took the material and then confided with each other about how ‘fit’ the girls where.

Yet none of them spent any time engaged in conversation with the girls.

And the few that muttered more than half a dozen words said all the wrong things.

This is great news!

It’s great because most men do all the wrong things. They say the wrong lines and they execute the wrong actions.

And that means that people like you and I that learn and practice the right things to say and the correct action to execute get to take girls like these on dates.

I know because I dated a girl that did the MotoGP events in the UK.


And the good news is, it’s so easy!

You don’t have to be tall. You don’t have to have dark hair. You don’t have to be a millionaire and you certainly don’t have to be good looking.

But you do have to LEARN what makes these women WANT you!

And all of this we coach and teach in the SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION™

If you haven’t downloaded it yet, then go and do it today.

If you’re not satisfied you can return it within 14 days for a full refund.

So there’s no risk!

Good luck out there.
Callum

Dating help

Do you want dating help?

Do you need some tips, advice or help on dating women?

Want to know:

• What to say when you see a girl you fancy
• How to get her phone number
• The methods to engage her in conversation and make her fancy you.

Whatever it is you want help with, Charlie and I are only an email away.

Think of us as your dating friends.

The guys that will help you get the woman of your dreams.

Right now!

So if we can help, simply send an email describing what advice you need and we’ll endeavour to answer.

As long as you don’t mind we’ll share the subject (but not your name, so you’ll remain anonymous) with others so that we can all work together to get the girl of our dreams.

Send an email to: callum@tipsfordating.co.uk and let me know what specific areas of advice you’re looking for.



Example

Here’s a recent example and it’s relevant to all of us:

“Callum. I have recently been on some dates with a girl. We got on reasonably well and have seen each other on a total of three separate occasions. However, whilst I find her company fun I am not particularly attracted to her and am unsure how to let her know this without upsetting her. Your advice would be appreciated.”
George, Newcastle.

Hey George I feel your pain.

You sound like a cool guy who’s sincere and thoughtful. It’s always a difficult thing to let someone know that you don’t want to see them again.

However there is a right way to do it.

Before I tell you though consider a few points:

1. The longer you delay telling her, the harder it will be for you and for her.
2. Not telling her, won’t make the problem go away.

Sometimes it seems like the best solution is to say nothing and hope she ‘get’s the message.’

Well, eventually she will, but it’s going to be painful for her and leave her with many unanswered questions.

The best policy is to be upfront and say some nice things as well as some honest things.

In my years of sports training we called this the Big Mac approach.

Where the bun of a Big Mac is positive feedback and the burger is constructive feedback.

So start with the bun, then the burger and finish with the bun.

Positive – constructive – positive.

Say to her something like:

“Hey I really enjoy your company. We get on well and seeing you has been terrific fun.”

“I have to be honest though. I’m not quite feeling ‘it’ in this relationship. And I thought it would be best to be honest and upfront with you.”

“You’re a great looking girl though and our dates have been incredible fun.”

This way it’s clear that you’re not getting what you want out of the relationship and that it’s gone the distance.

If she’s unsure what you mean she may ask “Does that mean it’s over?” and the simple answer is “Yes it does.”

Most women will be fine with this approach, especially after only a few dates.

Remember being honest and upfront early is the best policy.

That way you have cleared the air and you’re both free to pursue the lives and relationships that you both want and deserve.

I’m glad we can be of help.
Callum

How to attract women even if you don't look like Brad Pitt

Just because you're good looking is no guarantee to success and you'll probably be amazed to hear that you can attract hot women without looking like Brad Pitt.

I’m going to share with you 2 MASSIVE SECRETS.

The first one I’m going to talk about today and the second one in the next blog tomorrow.

Before I share with you the first big SECRET let me explain a situation that happened to me years ago more than once. Indeed numerous times.........

Party
I went to a party at a mates house in the summer. He had a great house with a large garden. The bbq was smoking and the drinks flowing.

After I’d been there a while I remember clearly seeing this girl across the room and my initial thought was “Wow she’s gorgeous!” She was about 5’6” with brunette hair down past her shoulders and long legs. She wore tight jeans that accentuated her slim figure and she had the most amazing smile. Amazingly I can remember it clearly as though it was yesterday. I also remember the feelings and emotions that I felt that instant. I remember wishing that I was taller, better looking, smarter, cooler, darker haired, with more chiselled features and so on.....

As the evening progressed I found her more and more attractive and felt myself wishing she was my girlfriend. How great I’d feel walking into a room with her. Taking her to a candlelit dinner. Walking hand in hand along a beach together as the sunset. The more I thought about this the more attractive she became and the more FEAR I felt. The FEAR continued to build to a point where the best thing to do was to not approach her and do nothing. At least that way the fear subsided.

Looks and fear
This scenario highlights two points: LOOKS and FEAR

FACT: Most men, indeed probably 95% of men go through their life thinking that women are attracted to men with GOOD LOOKS.

FACT: Most men FEAR approaching women.

Now let me share with you a SECRET.........Women are NOT ATTRACTED to men with great LOOKS!

“What?” I can hear you say..........Let me explain the difference....

The difference
Of course if a fantastic looking guy walks into the room women are going to stop and have a good view. They may chat to one another and say something like “Wow he’s hot!” or “Ooooo check him out. What a cutey!” But, and trust me this is an incredibly important ‘but’ women are far MORE attracted to PERSONALITY.

Now I can’t change your looks. A cosmetic surgeon may be able to, although I don’t think they’ve cracked how to make you taller! But, what I can do is change your personality so that you become an ACE with the ladies.

Now back to my mates party for a moment. Fast forward to the end of the evening and I spotted the girl again. She was cosying up to a guy. He was shorter than me, had a large stomach and very little hair. She was laughing the whole time at his jokes and from the body language you could see she was enjoying herself.

So, my friend, you have to understand that men are initially attracted to looks. For us guys it’s a very visual thing. If you don’t believe me then check out the top shelf of a magazine stand in a newsagent. Wall to wall porn!

It's not about the visuals
Why is there no equivalent for women? Because for women it’s not about the visuals.

There’s an old saying that women use: “Win my mind and you can have my body.”

It’s BANG on the money!!

If you win over the mind of a woman she’s yours forever. It doesn’t matter what you look like, how tall you are, what car you drive. But you have to WIN her mind.

In our course we explain how to do this.

How you can WIN her mind. How you can be the most AMAZING guy she’s ever met.

The course
It’s all in our course THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION

In the next instalment I’m going to share with you the FEAR secret!

Although if you want to fast forward and get over your FEAR now then check out the course. We tell you how to do that in massive detail. It’s a big subject and our exercises are designed to make you lose the FEAR forever!

For now though, remember, women are not attracted to LOOKS, so get out there and have some fun.

Want to know the SECRETS on how to attract women? Sign up to the FREE coaching email, full of dating tips for men and get a FREE guide on Why Most Dates Fail.

Callum