Are you a bunny boiler?

A while ago we had an email from Simon:

“Hey guys I could use some help here! I’ve been on several dates recently and after the second date the girls always seem to lose interest. I’ve been cool and charming (I think) and have we’ve got close and personal with the conversations. Even to the point where we’ve been discussing long term plans around family and kids. Yet in each case they have gone cold on me after 2 or 3 dates. Help!”

We’ve also had a few emails from guys who want to know how to get closer to a woman that they’ve met for a few times.

I’ll give an example:

You’ve been out on a couple of dates, shared a few kisses and embraces; but haven’t made the move to the bedroom. So the question is how do you cross that divide?

First it’s worth making sure you’re not a male bunny boiler (BB).

Some of the emails for advice we get have some BB qualities to them; for example sending endless texts, and sending texts immediately after receiving one.

By The way we look further into how to pace your communication in the course The SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION™ if you haven’t downloaded it yet then I would do it now.

So take this test to find out if you’re on the verge of becoming a BB:

Imagine you’ve met a woman 2 times, now answer the following questions:

Have you discussed how many kids you’d like?
Have you suggested meeting your or their parents?
Have you asked her if she’s in contact with or meeting anyone else?
If you’ve answered “yes” to any of these you’re sailing way too close to the wind.

You have to remember that what most women put on their internet profiles or tell you what they like in a man is what they ULTIMATELY want. It’s want they want in the long term

But it’s not what they will find ATTRACTIVE.

ATTRACTION isn’t something that can be switched on of off like a lightbulb!

Women are either attracted to your or they’re not!

And if they are NOT attracted to you in the initial meeting then the chances of them ever being attracted to you are almost ZERO!

What we COACH is how to create that ATTRACTION.

How to ENSURE that women find you incredibly ATTRACTIVE right from the ‘off!’

Down load the programme its risk free and it’ll change your life!

But if you have turned into some sort of Bunny Boiler why not try the Tips For Dating - Bunny Boiler Stew:

2 pet rabbits, skinned and jointed
250g Bacon cut into small pieces
1 tbsp olive oil
1 large onion, thickly sliced
3 large carrots,
1 leek
2 bay leaves
500ml dry cider
Salt and freshly ground black pepper
1. Heat the oil in a pan and add the bacon, onions and pet rabbits, heat until brown. Then transfer the meat into a casserole dish or similar

2. Add the carrots, leek and bay leaves

3. Finally season with salt and pepper and add the cider. Ensure the meat is covered by added water

4. Place casserole in a pre heated oven at 130oc (ensure lid is on) for 90 minutes – although older pets will take longer.

5. Serve with potatoes and ladle juice over it all.

I’m glad we can be of help and don't really try this at home!

Best wishes

Callum

Motor Racing babes

Have you ever seen the women that hang around at motor racing circuits?

You know the ones that are there as part of the race teams. They are wearing the team livery and are there purely as ‘eye candy.’

If you ever watch the MotoGP, prior to the race starting each competitor sits on his motorbike mentally preparing for the race. Holding an umbrella over each rider is a stunningly attractive girl, with a size 8 body and a figure hugging outfit.

Most guys will gawk and think things like:

“Wow she’s hot!”

or

“God I’d like to date her.”

Equally most guys will believe that these women are to be dreamed about and never will they really date a woman like this.

You have to be a gorgeous millionaire, don’t you?

Ask yourself; do you think the same way?

At the weekend a large motorbike store in a nearby town was celebrating its birthday and was holding a 2 day event. The place was alive with people. There was lots of entertainment and plenty there for the motorcycling enthusiast.

Additionally they had a plethora of ‘hotties’ making the place look nice and handing out promotional material.

I listened as many of the bikers took the material and then confided with each other about how ‘fit’ the girls where.

Yet none of them spent any time engaged in conversation with the girls.

And the few that muttered more than half a dozen words said all the wrong things.

This is great news!

It’s great because most men do all the wrong things. They say the wrong lines and they execute the wrong actions.

And that means that people like you and I that learn and practice the right things to say and the correct action to execute get to take girls like these on dates.

I know because I dated a girl that did the MotoGP events in the UK.


And the good news is, it’s so easy!

You don’t have to be tall. You don’t have to have dark hair. You don’t have to be a millionaire and you certainly don’t have to be good looking.

But you do have to LEARN what makes these women WANT you!

And all of this we coach and teach in the SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION™

If you haven’t downloaded it yet, then go and do it today.

If you’re not satisfied you can return it within 14 days for a full refund.

So there’s no risk!

Good luck out there.
Callum

How to attract women by overcoming the fear of approaching

Last time I shared with you the SECRET about LOOKS.

Today I’m going to tell you about the second SECRET which is FEAR.

If you remember I told you about the summer party at my mates house and the beautiful girl that I feared approaching. At the end of the night she was canoodling with some guy who was more Sunday Pub Team than Premier League.

Damn!! The point is though the guy deserved her, even if it pains me. He had the ‘balls’ to approach her. I didn’t!

Fear
Now let’s talk about this fear in a bit more detail.

If you want to shortcut all of this and overcome your fear NOW then you need to study the dating tips for men in the course and do the exercises.

The dictionary describes FEAR as:
1) A distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.
2) Concern or anxiety.

Many so called dating experts talk about FEAR and the FEAR of approaching women. But let me clarify one point:

It’s ANXIETY. It is NOT fear!

Right, now we’ve got that cleared up. It’s important though, because it highlights a really valid point. And that is when you approach a girl there is no immediate danger. You’re not likely to get shot, stand on a land mine, or get pregnant! But your anxiety levels increase.

Anxiety
Anxiety is a psychological and physiological state. That means it’s to do with the mind as well as the body. It differs in that it is more to do with perceived threats that are unavoidable or out of your control. Anxiety is a ‘future-oriented’ mood state where you attempt to prepare yourself for an upcoming negative event.

Read that again: Anxiety is a ‘future-oriented’ mood state where you attempt to prepare yourself for an upcoming negative event.

In the case of an approach to a woman you ‘future oriented’ mood state prepares you for REJECTION. Your mind say’s ‘OK she’s going to reject you. She’s going to ignore you and think you’re an idiot, loser in life.’

Therefore to eliminate or reduce this ANXIETY we don’t make the approach and another girl slips on by to become the lover of some other guy........And on it goes.......It’s a downward spiral of failure.

Preventing anxiety
The GREAT news is that you can break this spiral and stop feeling ANXIETY. You can get it to a level where you’re NEVER anxious.

Can you imagine what it would be like to be so confident that you can walk up to ANY woman and initiate a conversation, without any anxiety. WOW. How nice would that be? Well the good news is that you CAN. You can start on your journey to super confidence right now by simply downloading THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION course right now.

For now though, remember, ANXIETY is something you can eliminate. Read the material, perform the exercises and enjoy making APPROACHES.

Want to know the SECRETS on how to attract women? Sign up to the FREE coaching email, full of dating tips for men and get a FREE guide on Why Most Dates Fail.

Good luck out there.

Callum

How to attract women even if you don't look like Brad Pitt

Just because you're good looking is no guarantee to success and you'll probably be amazed to hear that you can attract hot women without looking like Brad Pitt.

I’m going to share with you 2 MASSIVE SECRETS.

The first one I’m going to talk about today and the second one in the next blog tomorrow.

Before I share with you the first big SECRET let me explain a situation that happened to me years ago more than once. Indeed numerous times.........

Party
I went to a party at a mates house in the summer. He had a great house with a large garden. The bbq was smoking and the drinks flowing.

After I’d been there a while I remember clearly seeing this girl across the room and my initial thought was “Wow she’s gorgeous!” She was about 5’6” with brunette hair down past her shoulders and long legs. She wore tight jeans that accentuated her slim figure and she had the most amazing smile. Amazingly I can remember it clearly as though it was yesterday. I also remember the feelings and emotions that I felt that instant. I remember wishing that I was taller, better looking, smarter, cooler, darker haired, with more chiselled features and so on.....

As the evening progressed I found her more and more attractive and felt myself wishing she was my girlfriend. How great I’d feel walking into a room with her. Taking her to a candlelit dinner. Walking hand in hand along a beach together as the sunset. The more I thought about this the more attractive she became and the more FEAR I felt. The FEAR continued to build to a point where the best thing to do was to not approach her and do nothing. At least that way the fear subsided.

Looks and fear
This scenario highlights two points: LOOKS and FEAR

FACT: Most men, indeed probably 95% of men go through their life thinking that women are attracted to men with GOOD LOOKS.

FACT: Most men FEAR approaching women.

Now let me share with you a SECRET.........Women are NOT ATTRACTED to men with great LOOKS!

“What?” I can hear you say..........Let me explain the difference....

The difference
Of course if a fantastic looking guy walks into the room women are going to stop and have a good view. They may chat to one another and say something like “Wow he’s hot!” or “Ooooo check him out. What a cutey!” But, and trust me this is an incredibly important ‘but’ women are far MORE attracted to PERSONALITY.

Now I can’t change your looks. A cosmetic surgeon may be able to, although I don’t think they’ve cracked how to make you taller! But, what I can do is change your personality so that you become an ACE with the ladies.

Now back to my mates party for a moment. Fast forward to the end of the evening and I spotted the girl again. She was cosying up to a guy. He was shorter than me, had a large stomach and very little hair. She was laughing the whole time at his jokes and from the body language you could see she was enjoying herself.

So, my friend, you have to understand that men are initially attracted to looks. For us guys it’s a very visual thing. If you don’t believe me then check out the top shelf of a magazine stand in a newsagent. Wall to wall porn!

It's not about the visuals
Why is there no equivalent for women? Because for women it’s not about the visuals.

There’s an old saying that women use: “Win my mind and you can have my body.”

It’s BANG on the money!!

If you win over the mind of a woman she’s yours forever. It doesn’t matter what you look like, how tall you are, what car you drive. But you have to WIN her mind.

In our course we explain how to do this.

How you can WIN her mind. How you can be the most AMAZING guy she’s ever met.

The course
It’s all in our course THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION

In the next instalment I’m going to share with you the FEAR secret!

Although if you want to fast forward and get over your FEAR now then check out the course. We tell you how to do that in massive detail. It’s a big subject and our exercises are designed to make you lose the FEAR forever!

For now though, remember, women are not attracted to LOOKS, so get out there and have some fun.

Want to know the SECRETS on how to attract women? Sign up to the FREE coaching email, full of dating tips for men and get a FREE guide on Why Most Dates Fail.

Callum