“Hi Callum and Charlie.
I wanted to share with you my heartfelt gratitude.
After recently downloading your course and working the exercises my love life has taken a massive step forward.
I was initially sceptical about the whole dating game, believing that being nice to women and telling them how you felt was the best policy. I also struggled with a lack of courage and found the more attractive I found a women the harder it was to go and talk to her. However your methods are incredible. I’m now in the enviable position of being able to pick and choose my girlfriends. Something I could never have dreamed possible in the past.
Thanks again.”
Thanks Dave, it’s always great to hear yet more success stories from our friends.
Courage
I’m going to take one point out of Dave’s email and that is ‘struggling with a lack of courage’ and how you can overcome this.
It's something that affects most men and was something that personally held me back for years!
I used to get so nervous when I saw a girl I fancied that I wouldn’t go and chat to them unless they had made eye contact with me.
In fact the more beautiful they were, the more time I’d spend trying to make eye contact and invariably I’d never go and chat to them.
Sometimes it would be the same girl and week after week I’d see her and hope she’d make eye contact so I could go and say something.
Of course they didn’t make eye contact and I didn’t go and chat to them.
The weeks became months and then one day I’d see them out with their new boyfriend who looked and acted like a complete dork!
Damn!!
The point here is that I screwed up!
The theory
But there is a SOLUTION!
Now I’m not going to go into too much detail here because this is covered in detail on our course; THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION™
It’s in Part 2 entitled “Super Confidence.”
The good news for you and for anyone else who suffers a bit of ‘Pre-match nerves’ or ‘Stage fright’ is that it is something you can ELIMINATE right now!
Let's look at it in a bit more detail.........
The way the human body works is highly complex, but in simple terms, the body’s central nervous system extracts information from your particular environment.
It uses the sensory receptors, to detect the five senses; touch, taste, sight, smell, and hearing.
Then it processes this information and determines an appropriate response.
So an example might be that you’re driving your car and up ahead about 400m away you see numerous brake lights suddenly appear in the traffic.
Your eyes detect the lights, they then send this information to your central nervous system and your brain registers it. It assesses it and sends back information saying that there is possible danger ahead. You sub-consciously reduce the pressure on your cars accelerator pedal and slow up enabling more information to be processed.
All of this happens in micro seconds!
Now in the case of a pretty woman your eyes register then send signals to your brain which will instantly register as:
- Gorgeous looking woman.
- I want to go and chat!
- I want to be seen as cool!
- I want her to find me attractive!
- I don’t want to get this wrong!
Your heart rate will rise and you’ll get a rush of adrenaline which in turn will give you all of the symptoms associated with what we call ‘nerves!’
- You’ll feel less confident.
- Your palms may get sweaty.
- Your hand may shake.
- Your breathing will become laboured.
- Your voice will change in tone and pitch.
Now this is ‘worst-case’ stuff and in Part 2 of THE SECRET ART OF ATTRACTION™ we explain how you can reduce and even eliminate these symptoms entirely.
The solution
But here’s one thing I want you to try the next time it happens to you:
- Look away from the girl.
- Focus on something else.
- Then close your eyes and think long and hard about...
- What is the WORST thing that could happen in this situation?
- Then think about:
- What is the BEST thing that could happen?’
- On a scale of 1 to 10 where 1 is a disaster or catastrophe and 10 is utopia or the perfect dream rank your answers.
So if the WORST thing that could happen to you is she’ll smile but maybe figure you out for being boring, politely make her excuses and leave, then rank that.
And if the BEST thing that could happen is that she’ll laugh, smile, give some banter in return and agree to your suggestion of a longer chat over coffee then also rank that.
THERE ARE NO RIGHT OR WRONG ANSWERS!!!!
The whole point of this exercise is to get you to understand that the worst scenario is NOT a disaster. It’s NOT a catastrophe!
It’s actually not even a negative!!!
"WHAT?" I hear you cry!
You’re probably thinking I’m nuts!
"I chat to a girl and she politely tells me to “Bugger off!” and it’s not a negative outcome."
NO IT’S NOT!
What you will have achieved by talking to her is:
- You’ll have overcome the initial fear of approaching a girl.
- You’ll have fought your own fear.
- The nerves you will have experienced will become less and less the more you do this, so you’ll have reduced them for the next approach
- You will have improved your skills at making a first approach.
And is she does ‘blow you out’ you won’t waste any time or money on her and you can move on to someone else who will be better for you anyway!
Whatever the outcome you’re also now officially a ‘Fun’ guy who has size 11 balls!
Don't forget all of this is covered in detail with exercises for you to do to improve your skills in part 2 of our manual entitled “Super Confidence.”
Good luck and let me know how you get on.
Callum
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